Once the marriage is few years old and the couples have settled in their daily routine intimacy between the couples take a back seat. Irregular shifts, busy routines, demanding in laws and children at home and bosses at office. Life starts to suck and boredom creeps in. And after a hard day at both office and home sex either becomes a routine to be followed or completely forgotten.
This is not just the case with the couples where both man and wife are working; it has become a common phenomenon among the present generation couples. So what to do? How to bring back that intimacy? Well here are few steps that may help you to bring back that lost passion and thus helping you to improve your sex life.
Communication is the most important thing to keep any relation alive most importantly marriage. So keep the channels of communication open. Remember your spouse is also human so if you don’t tell what’s on your mind he will not know. Be direct in communicating your needs because men don’t take hints. They simply don’t understand them.
2. De-clutter your bedroom
Take out all the extras from your bedroom. Extras here would mean your children’s toys, books, newspapers; magazines (keep the adult ones though). Also don’t store luggage in your bedroom. Couples after a few years of marriage become complacent and hence start leaving their dirty laundry either in the bathroom or in the bedroom. Don’t. This is your bedroom not a laundry basket or store room.
3. Get rid of distractions
Television, computers, laptops or any such things should not find place in your bedroom. Of course you need to have a music system in the room but not the home theatre. If you are short on space then keep the TV either in the drawing room so that everybody has an easy access to it. Same goes for the PCs. Laptops can be kept in the cupboard or in the study where nobody can touch it.
4. Make your bedroom your romantic haven
Your bedroom should be your romantic haven. So decorate it with love. Put scented candles, flowers (dry potpourri, artificial or fresh flowers), aroma oils, and all things that create an impression of lovers den.
5. Choose soft lighting
Remove all the harsh lighting of bulbs and instead go for pink bulbs they radiate a soft glow and will create an ambiance suited for some fun with your spouse. If you don’t want to remove the bulbs you can use cellophane papers to cover the lights.
6. Use inviting bedspreads and curtains
Use silk, satin or sateen bedspreads for the nights at least if you can not put them throughout the day because everybody loves to sit in your bedroom. Use flowing curtains for the doors and windows in your bedroom to create a soft look.
7. Take care of yourself
Don’t forget to take care of yourself while taking care of the needs of your children, in laws or your spouse. Your spouse will appreciate it more if you take some time out for yourself as well.
8. Get away on romantic weekends
As the pressure of life increases outings are usually with the family including children and other relatives. So make sure to ditch the family once in a while and go on a romantic weekend. You can go to nearby place but make sure to go out as a couple and not as parents or children or siblings. Couple time outside bedroom is really important to improve your relationship which will help in improving your sex life
9. Play soft music
Shut out every noise from your bedroom and play some soft romantic music. Music is known to have a calming and soothing effect on the tensed body and is a great source of relaxation after a hard day at work. However, ensure that the sound does not go out of your room else your nosy in laws will come banging on your door to switch off and go to sleep.
10. Use candles
Candles and romance go hand in hand. The soft light radiating from the candles is considered as a mood enhancer. So place few scented candles in your bedroom and then watch how moods change.
11. Do things that connect you
How long has it been since you and your spouse did anything that connected you as a couple. Don’t let family take over your couples’ time. Remember you both are a couple first and then parents or siblings, so do things that connect you as a couple. It can be taking a shower together, or giving each other a sensual aroma massage or taking a bubble bath. You got the idea, connect as a couple and you will see tremendous improvement in your sex life.
These are just few of the ways you can improve your sex life, surely if you think and use your creativity you can find more ways to improve yours sex life. Happy bonding with your spouse!
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